Peer Conversation-Let children talk to children

peer conversation

Peer Conversation:

Child to child conversation help build understanding, empathy and language. It is important for adults to talk to children, however when your kid talks to another there are some skills and advantages they can gain in which is not present when they talk to an adult.

Conversations are important to build literacy skills and oral language. This includes talking, taking part of a conversation listening skills and comprehension.

Before children learn how to read, they learn how to talk. Talking and taking part in a conversation helps build the foundation for all literacy skills. When children talk to one another, also known as peer conversation, they help develop the the skills needed for reading and writing.

Advantages of child to child conversation:

  • Children build their language, knowledge and sympathy when they share what is going on their life with a peer or friend.
  • Children develop trust and relationships when showing they care and listen to their friend.
  • Children tend to have their own language. They sometimes better understand rules or instructions from a peer than from a teacher or parent.

How to encourage child to child conversation:

  • Let children talk! make sure they have enough time to talk, share and schmooze!
  • By morning meeting  have children turn to the child on their left and share either something that happened to them that day or something nice about them.
  • ask children their friends advice or input on something- Rachel, what do you think Jon should do?”
  • Let children share their news or exciting event with their peers

Peer conversation should happen everyday, every minute. By encouraging talking among peers, friends or even siblings you help the children expand their horizon and help them build their future in relationships, literacy skills and confidence.

Let the talking begin!

Are transitions hard for everyone?

how to transition easily

How to transition easily:

The definition of transition is change from one position, state, stage, or concept to another. Transitions occur on a daily basis whether from school to home or from play time to lunch time. When children graduate or move up a grade, they too transition.

Everyone takes to change differently, some react with stress while others seamlessly transition. And that is OK. Children too, take to transition differently. As a parent or educator you can help them stream line the process and make the change a wonderful start to something new.

Why are transitions so difficult for some people?

Many people like to be comfortable. They like to know what to expect at a given time and place. Children, like adults appreciate structure. It is important for them to know that play time is the same time of day everyday. Lunch time too, is important to occur the same time. This helps them feel safe and open to learning.

When transitions occur they can disturb the equilibrium for some people. They feel lost and unsure of themselves and do not know what to do and what is expected of them. This can cause them to act in a seemingly irrational and disturbing manner. However, their actions are really just reflecting their inner confusion and discomfort.

How to make transitions easier:

When children or adults are properly prepared for change it can make the process so much clearer and simpler.

So as a parent or educator what can you do when you see a child has difficulty transitioning from one activity to another or seems whiny and disinterested to transition to school or camp?

Prepare them! How?

  • books- there are many great books that tell a child all about the changes they can expect when there is a transition looming
  • story telling- tell a child in your own words what they can expect
  • if possible have them transition slowly- such as a new baby in the family let them meet some babies and hear from siblings. If changing schools have them visit the school prior to their first day.

Transitions can be difficult however they do not have to be life altering. Preparation makes it all the easier.

Read on to see how to be a Leader:

how to be a leader

Are you a Leader?

Do you know that a mom and a teacher are both leaders? They both need to lead and direct others.

There are many different types of leaders in this world, however I will break it down into two simple categories. There are successful leaders and there are unsuccessful leaders. Leaders who lead without thought or direction are insufficient. They do not leave much impact nor cause much change. To be a progressive and powerful leader you must be clear in your role, in what it means to be a leader.

Do you know how to lead? What does it mean to be a leader?

What are you supposed to do, what is your job?

A leaders job is to take care of their direct charges, simple as that. Nothing more, do not be busy with things that are not in your domain or your responsibility. Put your energies in your charges. By doing, so a leader accomplishes much more and has the energy to do so! Leaders do not worry about other parents, friends and people not in their direct care.

How to be a leader:

1. The first step is to take care of yourself, your charges leader= self care.

Think about it, you want to make a difference to many and want to help all your students however before you can even do that you must take care of yourself. That sounds much simpler than it is – if you need your sleep and you deny yourself that you will be a much less efficient leader the next day! Take care of yourself and then you can care for others.

2. The next step is care for your charges. When you show your charges you care it will have a trickle down effect. Sitting down with a child and helping them reconstruct their artwork means so much more than telling them you are terribly sorry that it is ruined and going on in your day. You show you care, you do not say it.

When showing that you emphasize and truly care, students and children will feel their needs are met. There will be less badgering that they need a band aid or so and so hurt them. They know if that is truly the case you are there for them and will step in when need to. They do not need to seek outside or irrelevant attention, they are getting what they need.

When you as a leader have your priorities straight and practice true care, you know how to lead.  Such as when you give your co teacher or spouse that extra few minutes to get to themselves after an incident they will come back so much more refreshed and ready to help you, instead of badgering them that you need help.

When you show your children or students that you care for their well being and see that they need some more play time instead of doing a task, chore or craft you show them you care.  Showing them that you are taking their needs into consideration and not just checking things off your checklist. You understand you may send them home with less crafts, yet you know they needed that extra time for play. You are building trust and relationships by indicating that your charges are your priority through acts of  caring.

Caring for others, is truly being there for them. That shows you are a strong and powerful leader. Leaders care, they lead the world with caring.